7 expert-approved ways to mentally prepare for the next stage of lockdown


Psychotherapist Sasha Bates explains how to reframe your mental outlook when a return to normality is still a long way off

At least Matt Lucas is giving us something to laugh about with his Boris Johnson parody going viral. But laughs aside, the government’s plan to end lockdown can be said to be at best vague and confusing, and at worst hopelessly impractical and contradictory.

This ‘first sketch of a roadmap’ has left many of us baffled and anxious. And we’re not just talking about July 4th being the first possible-if-we’re-lucky potential hot date with your hairdresser. What about the practicalities of returning to office work or not? The reopening of schools or not? Are we safe on public transport or not? Maybe these questions and so many more will be answered over the next few weeks. Or possibly not.

After Johnson’s address to the nation, we felt our anxiety levels rising and knew it was time to call in the clear-thinking big guns, aka psychotherapist Sasha Bates. Here the author of best-selling book Languages of Loss , reveals how to mentally navigate this time of muddled confusion, as we realise there will be no quick return to our lives after the pandemic.

‘Making plans for all the fun and exciting things we are going to do once lockdown is lifted has helped a lot of us get through the last few weeks. Focusing on the fact that this is temporary, and that we can get back to normal soon has been a necessary crutch for many of us. But how is that strategy working now that it’s looking increasingly unlikely that ‘normal’ life will resume any time soon? The very thing that has helped us through, might now be the thing that is making this next stage even harder.

It’s becoming increasingly obvious that we don’t know when this will be over, not really. And when it is, we don’t know how drastically life will have changed. And uncertainty is one of the hardest of states to manage. So, what can we do to get through these next few weeks of vagueness, frustration and, yes, sadly, still fear? The fear of getting ill is still there, but so is the fear of whether we can cope with much more of this restricted lifestyle, plus the ever-present fear of what the future will look like once things do get easier. Sounds grim? I’m not so sure.

Sasha Bates (Credit: Dolly Clew)

In fact, there are several things we can do. And despite that rather gloomy intro, they are things that I think will make the next few weeks of lockdown not just bearable, but potentially life affirming, even possibly life changing.

Firstly, alter your plans and the timescale of your plans

Rather than focus on that post lockdown middle future, which is so unknowable, focus instead both on the more long-term future – what you can do this time next year – and the immediate future – what you can do today and tomorrow.

Be very specific with your planning so you regain the feeling of control

When so much of our lives are out of our control, reminding yourself what is, is empowering and reduces anxiety. Break your day down into manageable chunks of time, create a schedule, and stick to it. Get up, go to bed and eat meals at the same time every day; include the things that you have to do – work and housework – and build in slots for things that you know will help your mental and physical health – exercise and meditation; schedule in time for communicating with friends, and most importantly, time for the things you really enjoy doing – a hobby and self-care.

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Hope for the best but prepare for the worst

And assume we are in this for the long haul. Envisage your worst-case scenario, double it, and mentally prepare for that. That way anything less is a bonus and rather than facing daily disappointment that things haven’t changed, it will come as a nice surprise when they do.

Imagine looking back in ten years’ time

How would you like to remember lockdown? As a time of constant frustration and boredom, or as a time when you were able to change your pace, get to know yourself better, approach things a bit differently and change lifelong habits?

Be compassionate

Your moods and your ability to cope will be constantly shifting so try to honour your feelings throughout. Give yourself permission to grieve, rage and sob during the bad days, but having let it all out, make the most of the good days, find what joy you can in the small things, and be grateful for what lockdown is providing that you wouldn’t otherwise have discovered.

Make lists of all those good things about lockdown

Those you have experienced for yourself, and those you may only have heard about – the return of fish and ducks to Venice, for instance.

It’s about managing your expectations

It’s not just about the likely end-date, but also about how much you can get done, and how you are coping. These are exceptional times, we are dealing with a very stressful situation, so be kind to yourself and understand that things will take longer than normal, and that we will all ‘lose it’ at certain times.

If you do all these things, you may find you adapt new ways of being that will serve you well post-lockdown. And finally, and most importantly, do not give up hope – lockdown WILL end.

* Languages of Loss by Sasha Bates is published by Yellow Kite as a hardback, ebook and audio

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